In a previous post we touched on the time delay between wanting, visualizing and receiving. And it is during this time delay that we often commit a common mistake - we start to justify why we don’t have it yet.

Sure, you can come up with all kinds of reasons you don’t have what you want. And if you have told your friends what you are creating, then it can even get messier, especially if you have some friends who don’t understand how visualizing and attracting work.

Let’s look at a relationship example. You know how it is when you want a relationship with a certain type of someone, but you don’t have it yet? When the relationships you do have just don’t measure up?

So you spend a lot of time telling yourself and your friends why you don’t have that perfect relationship yet. You give your excuses, and justify your current situation. Maybe you think you aren’t pretty enough, slim enough, smart enough, funny enough.

Everyone has their favorite reasons and justifications, but dwelling on them doesn’t help you get what you want.

You have a choice.

You can spend all of your time and conversation hashing over your justifications for not having the relationship you want. And the more you tell that story about why you can’t have it or don’t deserve it, the more you will believe it. And the more it will be true for you.

Tell a New Story - The One You Want to be True

Or you can stop all the justification and tell a new story.

Your excuses are only valid if you continue to hang on to them. Instead, look for evidence to the contrary. Decide to find evidence that you can have what you want.

Back to our example - have you been making your weight your excuse? There are tons of people who are overweight who have marvelous relationships. Look around. When you see them, tell yourself that it can happen, and right there is evidence.

So stop justifying why you don’t have your desire yet. Instead, talk about how wonderful it will be when you do have it. How you will enjoy it, what you will do with it, how your life will be different.

So, tell a new story. And focus on what you want, why you want it, and how your life will be when you have it.

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